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Loner's Anonymous
Page 15
Leon Stevens
The prospect of going to the bar by oneself can be intriguing and exciting, but once one arrives, it can be frustrating and traumatic. Due to several converging psychological obstructions, solo cruising can prove to be a trial.
Many single cruisers feel embarassed to find themselves alone in a disco. They suspect they are being stared at because they are not in the company of one or more others and surmise that they are being viewed as social failures. At first this might appear to be an exaggerated observation, but in public situations sensibilities become dramatically heightened and human nature forcefully asserts itself. The inverse of self-consciousness due to being alone in a multitude operates similarly. People tend to be suspicious of "loners" and speculate, perhaps subconsciously, as to why these persons are alone. They assure from one's solitary presence that he is afflicted with a poor reputation or some offensive personality characteristic. One is more likely to be cruised if he is seen carrying on an animated conversation with others. While "cliquish" social environments are frequently criticized, one's cruisability is determined by his success in general socialization. Of course, a group or at least one other companion serves as a reassuring fortress from which one can zather courage to approach outsiders and to which he may flee if rejected. Lone cruising may prey upon itself. rejection tends to accelerate the paranoia of an isolated bar-goer, making him increasingly hesitant, and others more apprehensive of him. A drooping, threatening or remorseful expression is a handicap. If one goes to a bar alone, motivated by a search for his dream-lover, he is almost certain not to have a good time.. The anxiety arrising from looking for omens of one's whole future happiness in a single evening is certain to be self-defeating. Our traditional obsession with intense emotional pair-bonding and the anticipation of secure monogamous bliss has wrecked countless potentially good times. Failure to discover true love on a given night is too often perceived as the supreme defeat leading one to dread more such defeats weekend after weekend. General depression can result in chronic defeatism which destroys one's ability to interact spontaneously with the disco crowd.
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One can only have fun at the gay bar if he goes expressly for the purpose of having fun. Many people mistakenly believe that communication at the bar is composed largely of secret signals and subtle inuendos. Actually most people will engage in some conversation or dance with a stranger whether he is sexually stunning or not. Good will comprises a democratic majority in the human psyche but is obtained only through active solicitation. Good times are made, not received. To be sure, the bar is the most popular and convenient vehicle for achieving sexual gratification and trying to score via the bar populace is hardly inappropriate. However anyone who predicates his entire evening's enjoyment on his progress in cornering the "right" trick might just as well spend Saturday night at a funeral parlor. There is no disgrace in going home alone and contrary to common myth, quite a few wonderful and lucious men frequently do so. Life is far too short for self-pity and self-terror. Human psychology is such that tragedy tends to expand to fill all the space available to it.. Sorrow for the sake of sorrow may se aesthetic but it is still a very genuine summer. question is not: "What good is sitting alone in your room?," Perhaps the rather: "What good is sitting alone at the cabaret?."
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